In other words, a gay man who has not told anyone he’s gay. The Closet: A place where you keep all your ridiculously expensive clothes, your snug woolens, and yourself, when you are not out to the world. (Not to be confused with the derogatory term used during the American pre-Civil Rights era.) Sub/Submissive/Slave: A gay man who likes being bossed around in bed. Slam: When someone wants to snort MDMA off your belly button. Poz: An out-and-proud HIV Positive man who’s doing what a lot of men out there are not - telling us about his status. Power bottom: A bottom that acts like he’s a top.
Otter: A thinner, younger version of the Bear. NSA: No-strings-attached casual sex, that doesn’t involve feelings or goodbye messages. Looking for Networking: A man who travels a lot and is on the lookout for vacation flings. Kinky: Anything that is not Vanilla sexually, but peach apricot with hazelnuts.
Iron Closet: A gay man who is in such deep denial of his sexuality, he might never step out of the closet. Hershey Highway: When someone wants to make anal sex sound more desirable. Sexual toys may or may not be involved.įagg*t: A rude thing to call a gay person.įairy: Another rude thing to call a gay person. May or may not deal with body issues.ĭaddy: An older, established man who likes his scotch aged and his boys, young.ĭaddy Chaser: A gay man who likes his partners older, richer, but not necessarily wiser.ĭiscreet: A man who is either in a relationship or in denial, and wants sex on the side.ĭom/Dominant/Master: A gay man who likes to play ‘ Who’s the boss?’ in bed. Or when someone tries to make a bl*wjob sound even cooler, but fails miserably.Ĭruise: To seek casual gay sex encounters - usually in restrooms, pubs or sometimes, even by the corner streetlight, so that you can regret them the morning after.Ĭub: A younger version of the Bear, heavier than the Otter. So the next time someone tells you they know ‘just the right twink for your daddy charms,’ here’s a little glossary of gay slang to help you understand what they really mean.īear: An older, broader hairier man who unlike his namesake, does not need to hibernate.īeefcake: A gay man who spends most of his time at the gym, and the rest of it scooping spoonfuls of protein supplement into his post-workout shakes.īJ: A bl*wjob, or when someone wants to make a bl*wjob sound cool.īottom: The receptive sexual partner also known as ‘someone who likes taking it in’.īuns: Butt or when someone wants to be cute about your butt.Ĭhubby Chaser: A gay man who likes his sexual partners just like he likes his pillows – soft and cuddly.Ĭ*cksicle: A BJ, again. Whether you are an out-and-proud gay man or an in-the-closet newbie, your dictionary of gay slang will always be as varied as your little black book of boys. It’s 2018, and it’s time for you to get with the times.
When you are gay man, you’ll always be full of questions (when you are not full of self-doubt, that is) - but this is 2018, and some questions, while basic, - will always be more important than the others.ĭon’t know whether you are a top or a bottom? Do you feel it’s rude (and very inappropriate) when someone asks you whether you are a slave? Have you always wondered why your friends laughed at you when you said you loved vanilla? Are you surprised that people could be that into otters? More importantly, what is an otter? What’s the shelf life of a clearance sale shirt? What’s the expiry date on a Grindr hookup? Do potatoes count as carbs? If you feel like a potato, are you a carb? Do you need to kick your junk food habits out on the curb (no pun intended)? Are moccasins better than brogues? More importantly, what is a brogue?